Often, exclusion is defended with a phrase that sounds neutral enough to escape scrutiny: “It’s just not my preference.” This framing is common in discussions around sexuality, gender, race, disability, and other social identities. People insist that their discomfort is personal, not political. That their exclusion of entire groups is a matter of taste rather than judgment. But when “preference” is used to dismiss people rather than objects, it stops functioning as a benign d

One of the defining habits of modern discourse is our rush to certainty. We encounter a single statement, a single action, or a single moment, and from it we construct an entire identity. A person becomes their worst sentence. A life becomes a headline. Complexity is flattened into a label, and nuance is treated not as insight but as evasion. This tendency is not accidental. Certainty feels efficient. It offers moral clarity without the burden of understanding. But it comes a