A lot of Black girls and women are taught to be strong in ways that leave no room for softness. Strength often means not crying, not falling apart, not needing too much, and not relying on anyone else. While that kind of mindset is usually passed down as protection, it can also erase tenderness and vulnerability, things that are very human and very feminine. Over time, it affects how Black women see their own desires, especially when it comes to love. Romance is one of the mo